From My Desk: Things to Ponder, Girls

Girls, would it be really worth it to be insulted by a guy who knows us for about 3 years when our fathers; who have known us all our lives, never insulted us?

Or we can always use the excuse: AT LEAST I have a boyfriend or a husband?

Will it do to accept whole-heartedly the insult rained on our families by this person who may not even be a husband?

Just because: AT LEAST I have a boyfriend.

If you are like me, still have a mother while some are lucky enough to have both parents, I have a question.

Is it really worth it to be willingly caring for someone who is already suffering from an incurable disease when one day, we know that our mothers and fathers will be sick because of old age and we'd better take care of them instead? I’m not talking about when we have gotten married to the guys but still getting to know him? I mean, kalau dah kahwin tu ‘Tahan je’ lah kan?

(p/s: this is not meant to be insulting, just a question).

Is it really worth it to drop everything that you are doing in school or at higher education institutions for your girlfriend or boyfriend? Remember, your degree or diploma will be the key to the world. If you are about to answer that Bill Gates can make it although he’s a Stanford College dropout, more questions:.

Gates is a Stanford dropout. Are you even at Stanford? Ask yourself.

There’s only one Bill Gates or Donald Trump. It means it is not easy to become them.

Again, girls, do you think it is worth it to be a punching bag just because: AT LEAST I have a boyfriend or husband?

Or accepting someone who adores you for absolutely nothing but your body ALONE? Btw, that is lust not love.

We need each other, yes, I admit that. I’m not against the idea of marriage but I think before anyone steps into a relationship, there are some questions need to be asked and pondered upon seriously. Violence against women has become a common thing and we blame everyone but seriously, can it be that we are the ones to blame?

Here’s why (taken from Wikipedia):

Enabling

In a negative sense, enabling is also used in the context of problematic behavior, to signify dysfunctional approaches that are intended to help but in fact may perpetuate a problem.[1][2]A common theme of enabling in this latter sense is that third parties take responsibility, blame, or make accommodations for a person's harmful conduct (often with the best of intentions, or from fear or insecurity which inhibits action). The practical effect is that the person themselves does not have to do so, and is shielded from awareness of the harm it may do, and the need or pressure to change. It is a major environmental cause of addiction.[3]

Let’s open our eyes and look for the warning signs. Be prepared and have faith that the world would continue spinning even if we end up being single, the sun will still shine or no Hollywood’s wind will howl eh silap tu lagu Franz Ferdinand.